Many people think that squirting during an orgasm is the pinnacle of pleasure, but it’s not necessarily true for everyone. In fact, squirting can detract from orgasms for some women.
“Squirting is a bit of a misnomer because the fluid that is expelled doesn’t always resemble a squirt,” says sex therapist Jess O’Reilly, PhD, host of the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast. It can look more like a drip or dribble.
1. Get Yourself Aroused
Many anecdotal accounts and most scientific research on squirting suggest that the first step in having intense squirting orgasms is getting yourself into a heightened state of arousal. That means ramping up the clitoral and vaginal stimulation with things like kissing, dirty talk, oral sex, nipple play, digital clitoral stimulation, spanking, or erotica.
It’s also a good idea to have some lubrication handy, whether you’re masturbating or in a committed relationship. It may help to apply the lube directly to the clitoris, the G-spot, or both. The lube can increase the sensations of penetration and enhance your ability to find the right pressure points for arousal and squirting.
Remember that squirting can get messy, so make sure to lay down a towel or a sex blanket (such as the ones Liberator makes) on the bed in case you and your partner end up with a squirting mess. Also, don’t feel rushed or anxious to reach your goal; squirting is a natural part of the process.
It can take some time to train the pelvic floor muscle, so don’t give up if you don’t get there right away. Then, once you’re in a squirting zone, it helps to relax and let the fluid flow. It can look like a drip, dribble, or even a gush, and it might feel and smell a little bit like pee.
2. Penetrate the Vagina
Some sex experts recommend manually stimulating the G-spot — which is the area at the top of the genitals — to help trigger a squirting orgasm. You can use your fingers or sex toys, and try varying the amount of pressure you apply. You may also want to experiment with different positions that can offer a variety of penetration angles. Just be sure to use plenty of lubricant to avoid friction.
Another way to increase your chances of achieving a squirting orgasm is to engage in lots of foreplay before you turn on the toys. This will get the clitoris and labia in a heightened state of arousal.
You might even want to turn on some soft music to heighten the mood and set an erotic tone. And don’t forget to puddle-proof your bed! This can help prevent any unexpected splashes.
Regardless of what you do, it’s important to remember that not everyone will squirt or experience an orgasm. So don’t put any pressure on yourself or your partner to do either, and be open about what you both want and enjoy. The key is to focus on the journey, and to make each attempt as pleasurable as possible. And don’t give up if it doesn’t happen right away! Just like any other sexual experience, squirting takes time and exploration.
3. Apply Consistent Pressure
If you want to try squirting during an orgasm, it’s important to be ready for the experience. Both you and your partner should be hydrated (which helps your body’s natural lubrication), have clean hands, and have plenty of lube on hand to prevent any friction or abrasions. It’s also a good idea to lay down a large towel, mattress protector, or sex blanket like the one Liberator makes to minimize mess.
Once you’ve found the g-spot, stimulate it by fingering and caressing it. This will help your muscles to relax and may bring on an orgasm. Experiment with varying amounts of pressure and pay attention to how it feels. Some women find that applying a lot of pressure is more pleasurable, while others prefer to apply less pressure.
It takes time to figure out the best amount of pressure for a person’s body, so don’t worry if it doesn’t work at first. Some people need to squirt repeatedly before they get it right, but don’t give up!
Some people have trouble squirting while masturbating alone or with a partner, but if you keep trying and focusing on how it feels, you’ll eventually get it. Unlike learning how to perform a sexual position, squirting is more of a mental and psychological experience than a physical one. However, that doesn’t mean it isn’t still an incredibly satisfying sensation to achieve!
4. Let Go
If you’re learning how to squirt for the first time, be prepared for it to get messy. The fluid emitted from a person’s urethra during sexual stimulation can range from a dribble to a spurt or even a gush. It can also vary in color, odor, and volume. Squirting is not the same as female ejaculate (which involves a clear, milky-white liquid).
To enjoy squirting, it’s important to be relaxed and open to getting wet. You don’t want to be tense and worried about making a mess, especially because this can interfere with the sensations you’re feeling. To help yourself stay relaxed, it can be helpful to focus on something else other than squirting. This can take practice, but it’s a good way to relax your mind and body before you try to squirt again.
You can also try exercising your pelvic floor muscles, or pubococcygeal (PC) muscle. These are a hammock-like set of muscles that hold in your lower organs. Strengthening these muscles can make a big difference in how much pressure you’re able to apply, which can result in an orgasm. And if you’re still having trouble, there are some products that can stimulate the clitoris and cause a squirt without causing any urine. Just make sure to use a product that’s safe and doesn’t contain any chemicals that could be harmful.
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