Whether you’re looking to make things romantic or just want to hang out as friends, you can do it—as long as you take your time and avoid rushing into anything. Desperation often leads to bad decisions, especially in relationships.
Taking your time also gives you the chance to gauge how interested they are in you. Look for non-verbal cues like eye contact and open body language, Overstreet says.
1. Ask with confidence
If you want to take it to the next level, there are some things you can do to let them know you’re interested in more than friendship. For one, you can make subtle compliments that let them know you find them desirable without overdoing it. Saying something like “you always have the best outfits” or “your hair looks amazing today” can be interpreted as flirtatious, but they’ll still make them feel special.
Another way to show your interest is to be specific when you ask them out. Avoid vague questions like “wanna hang?” or “would you like to grab dinner sometime?” and instead ask them out for a specific activity, such as going hiking or trying out a new restaurant. This will help set the tone for a date and make them more likely to say yes.
In addition, it’s important to use body language and voice tone to convey confidence. This will make you seem more appealing, and it will also show that you’re not afraid to take the risk of asking them out.
Finally, it’s important to keep in mind that even if you ask someone out, it might not work out. However, if you’re open about your feelings and have a mutual desire to stay friends regardless of the outcome, it should be fine.
2. Keep it casual
It is important to make your friend feel comfortable before asking them out on a date. It is also essential to consider their emotional state and whether they are ready for a new romantic relationship.
This can be done by keeping the conversation casual and lighthearted. It is also important to avoid heavy flirting or hints at affection. It is also important to maintain open communication and a clear desire to remain friends if the romance does not work out.
The best way to ask a friend out is in person, but it may not always be possible. In this case, a text message could be an option, but it is important to keep in mind that it can be difficult to assess tone through texting. In addition, it is important to avoid using emojis or emoticons.
If you are going to ask your friend out, it is important to remember that she has to be sexually attracted to you before she will agree to a date. This can be done by letting her know you are interested in more than just friendship, and by demonstrating that you are a sexually attractive person.
If you are not sure if she is attracted to you, try some light flirting with her or giving her a compliment and see what happens. Be careful not to overdo it, though; if you are too forward, she might take it as a sign that you aren’t interested in dating her.
3. Be honest
Asking someone you consider to be a friend on a date is a risky move, regardless of how long you’ve known them. Some people will immediately be interested in the offer, while others may feel uneasy with it or unsure how to respond.
If your friend does agree to a date, you should be clear about your intentions from the start. Explain that you have started to develop romantic feelings for them and would like to take this relationship to the next level. This will help them to understand where you are coming from and will give them the freedom to say “yes” or “no” without putting too much pressure on the situation.
It’s also important to be honest if your friend doesn’t seem interested. Even if they have given flirtatious signals and you’re confident that they want to be your boyfriend or girlfriend, they may just not be ready for it yet. In this case, be understanding and make it clear that you would still like to spend time with them as friends.
It’s also a good idea to not pressure them into a date by making the request in front of a crowd, especially if they aren’t comfortable with that type of attention. Social pain has been shown to have some of the same neurological and brain chemical underpinnings as physical pain, so avoiding this type of social discomfort can help reduce their anxiety.
4. Take “no” for an answer
It’s important to remember that even if you ask a friend out, there is no guarantee they will agree. Depending on how they feel and their current situation, it may be better for them to remain friends instead of dating. That’s okay!
One of the biggest reasons that friendships that turn into relationships fail is because they move too fast. Don’t be afraid to take your time and let things happen naturally. It’s better to introduce the idea of a date slowly and casually, so you can gauge how they respond.
If she seems receptive, don’t be afraid to ask her out. Be sure to make the invitation casual and fun, like two friends going to see a movie together. This will help keep the vibe light and prevent you from putting too much pressure on her.
If you do get a “no,” don’t take it personally. People will always have different opinions and feelings, so don’t be discouraged if you are turned down. Just try to learn from the experience and continue to be a good friend.
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