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How to Finger a Woman to Orgasm

Whether you call it manual sex, hand sex or fingering, stimulating a woman with your fingers is an important part of giving her orgasm. And a lot of fun!

Tip#5: Start with light pressure and gentle movements and build up to your desired speed and intensity. Pay attention to her verbal and non-verbal feedback and adjust your rhythm accordingly.

Vaginal Cavity

The vaginal cavity, which contains the labia majora and minora, clitoris, and the vulva opening is a very sensitive area that must be approached carefully to avoid sexually transmitted infections (STI). The outer part of the female sex organ called the vulva is made up of her inner thighs, the pubic mound, the labia, her perineum, and her clitoris.

For beginners, lubricating the fingers before fingering is a good idea as it reduces the risk of injury and makes the experience more pleasurable. It is also recommended to use a soft-tipped finger such as the thumb to stimulate her pussy, as it provides an additional sensation and can be more satisfying than using a normal finger.

When fingering her, start gently teasing the outside areas of her vulva with your thumb, index and middle finger, and then move inward to the clitoris. It’s important to pay attention to her responses as this will give you clues as to how much pressure or motion she prefers, and which areas seem more or less sensitive.

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Stimulating her clitoris is often what will send her into orgasm. This highly erogenous spot has thousands of nerve endings and is very responsive to touch. To stimulate it, stroke it in circular or back-and-forth motions and experiment with varying amounts of pressure until you find what she likes best.


The clitoris, which is located on the outside of the vulva, has 8,000 nerve endings, making it extremely sensitive to external stimulation. If the clitoral stimulation is intense enough, women can experience orgasm from it.

To stimulate the clit, slowly slip your hand underneath her panties and rub her pussy while stroking her genital area. As her arousal increases and she cries for more, begin to rub her clit from side to side. This is a great time to tell her how beautiful she is and that you are turned on by her body.

Once you have her in a position where she wants to continue rubbing the clit, gently insert one finger into her G-spot area and start to stroke it. This can be extremely pleasurable for her, especially if you are using the right pressure and speed. If she asks for more, try slipping in another finger – the thumb can be an especially intense sensation on the clit.

The key is to never stop rubbing and stimulating the clitoral area. This will eventually lead to orgasm, but it’s a marathon and not a sprint. You may need to take a break if she becomes overly vocal or the stimulation becomes too rough, but don’t let the momentum slow down. When you feel she is close to orgasm, keep stroking and stimulating and see how she responds.

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A woman’s clitoris, which is a bit like the male penis, can be stimulated with fingering. This organ is hidden under a hood between her genital lips, and it can be a little sensitive for beginners, but if you have the right technique, stroking in this area with your fingers can be incredibly pleasurable. Try using a windscreen wiper motion, or the ‘come hither’ motion, where your curled fingers move across her g-spot in a circular movement.

This can be a powerful pleasure for her, especially when you stroke it with both hands. You can also try double stimulation with one finger, sliding it in to the clitor and then stroking over it. Many women find this to be a kinky sensation, and you can vary the amount of pressure you apply and the speed at which you move.

Stroking her from the bottom of her vagina to her clit can be a very pleasurable experience for her, and stroking it over and over again can build her up to an orgasm. Keeping communication open with her by asking her how she’s feeling and telling her you love watching her reaction to your touch can be a great way to turn her on further, and encourage her to keep reaching for that big orgasm. This, combined with the proper foreplay and lubrication, can give her a fingering session that she will never forget.

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Other Erogenous Zones

While the genitals may be the most prominent erogenous zones for women, other areas are just as hot. For example, the bottom of her feet and the knees contain pressure points that are incredibly sensitive and can trigger orgasms. The armpits, on the other hand, aren’t usually seen as sexually arousing, but they do respond to touch and tickling.

The area around the clitoris can also be orgasmic, especially if it’s stimulated with a clitoral hood or a tongue that licks and strokes. And the front wall of her vagina, which houses the clitoris, can be stimulated with fingers and a variety of toy sex objects. It’s important to note that the sensitivity of these areas will vary according to her menstrual cycle and state of arousal, as well as the sensitivity of her erogenous zones outside the vulva.

When stimulating a woman’s erogenous zones, it’s best to start out slow and ease in with one finger at a time. A little bit of patience is key and it can help to have a good supply of lubrication on hand. Also, if the initial touches don’t seem to be working, it’s a good idea to try different techniques and to change up the pace. For instance, teasing or stroking a nipple with your thumb is a great way to build up anticipation and arousal.